Detachment
Detachment
29/Jun/08
Detachment at first sounds cold-hearted. It
doesn't sound loving. However, it can be a
wonderful gift. When I detach from someone
because of his unacceptable behavior, I am
allowing him to exercise his freewill.
I didn't become a control freak in order to block people from joy or self-confidence. I got involved in running their lives in order to protect them. After all, I knew better. But in "protecting" them, I've done them a great disservice. As Mark Twain wrote, "A man who holds a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no other way."
I find it painful to watch someone suffering "needlessly," but sometimes this is the only way they can learn. There are times when someone can only learn by suffering the natural consequences of foolishness. It may be painful, both for me and the other person, but we will both be better off if I mind my own business.
I didn't become a control freak in order to block people from joy or self-confidence. I got involved in running their lives in order to protect them. After all, I knew better. But in "protecting" them, I've done them a great disservice. As Mark Twain wrote, "A man who holds a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no other way."
I find it painful to watch someone suffering "needlessly," but sometimes this is the only way they can learn. There are times when someone can only learn by suffering the natural consequences of foolishness. It may be painful, both for me and the other person, but we will both be better off if I mind my own business.
—Anonymous