Honesty, balance, and realism are important tools that we must use when making amends. If we are leaning toward self-justification, we should consider the Golden Rule—do to others what you would have them do to you. When we have not followed this rule, amends are needed. The amends need to fit the situation. We may simply need to stop a certain behavior. For example, if we cut someone off in traffic, it's probably better to start driving with more courtesy than to chase down the other driver and apologize. However, a direct apology and/or restitution may be necessary in other cases.

Step Nine requires using common sense and appropriate timing. It takes courage and faith. And we are not alone. Both God and our sponsor can help us. By using all the tools we have available, we can begin cleaning our slate.

—Anonymous

Tags: Amends